Adoption-Finding Support from the people around you.

22 February 2022
By Cairs Admin

For an expectant mother, the adoption process can be very complicated. If you are a husband, boyfriend or even a family member, you may struggle with how to best support her. You may be experiencing grief and confusion yourself. However, as someone close to her, you will be the one she needs the most support from. Here at Tapestry, the mother will receive counseling from our counselor team, but we want to make sure you feel equipped to help her as well.

Take time to celebrate the birth mother

Planning for an adoption should not consume the mother’s life. It is important that during these stressful months that she has fun and is taking care of herself physically and emotionally. Remind her of her beauty and worth.

Helping Her Create the Adoption Plan.

This can be a stressful time and making big decisions can seem overwhelming. It is important that the mother receives input about the choices she is making with regard to who is at the hospital and what level of contact she would like post adoption. If you are the biological father, it is helpful to assist her in choosing the right family to assure a positive future for your child.

Listen to Her Needs and Wishes

As much as you want to help or make promises of commitment, remember that ultimately she is the one making the plan. Listening to her decisions and emotions during this time is important. She needs to be validated as brave and strong for the decision she is making for her child. Having feelings of shame or guilt can go along with an adoption choice. She needs your reassurance that she is making a sacrificial decision that is unselfish.

Help Her Find the Right Agency

Once she has decided to give her baby up for adoption, finding the right agency is important. Tapestry can meet with her to discuss any questions she may have about her rights, financial support and counseling that is available as well as connecting her with other moms who have made adoption plans. Having a professional on hand to honestly answer her questions is important. The agency will present her with many families she can choose from. With Tapestry, she may interview the families, which adds so much more than just picking a family for your child from a book or website.

Choosing adoption is not “giving up”. To take the bold step of working to find the best family for your child shows strength, character and selflessness. If you would like to reach out to an adoption counselor Call or text Tapestry 317 529 7322

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